Hoe is for Honey

 When I was in eighth grade I found out my bestfriend was talking to my ex boyfriend on the phone behind my back and I was livid. This would be my first experience with relationships between my lovers and friends but certainly not my last. Reflecting upon this experience got me thinking about the topic of lovers and friends. In high school I would constantly try to fend of my admirers because they would be in actual romantic situationships with my friends. I nver wanted to break the code. Lately I find myself in a situation that challenges my moral code. I like a guy that  is a friend of a guy that i was in a very serious situationship with, and i dont know how to shoot my shot because of it.  The guy that I used to talk to has absolutely no plans of taking things to the next level with me or doing right by me, so i dont see the harm in talking to his friend. I just dont know if the friend has mutual feelings. Ive done this before but the relationship with the guy whose friends i talked to was much more casual, and I feel no remorse. Why is this such a slippery slope when it comes to women? Guys have been pulling this trick since the beginning of time without any reprimanding, but when a girl does it she crosses the line and is deemed a hoe. Ill be that hoe is for honey. i refuse to let the misogynistic rules made in this patriarchal society of double standards taint my chances of happiness in love. Who makes these rules anyway? If a guy sleeps with the friend of one of his lover hes a player, but if a girl does it shes ostraczied because she " smashed the homie" as Ray J would say. Ive had enough. I make my own rules, and live by my own standards. No one is in a place to judge me. Ive made up my mind and Ill be damned if i let someones faulty judgements stifle me from reaching my full potential. Gender roles be damned. Im going into this new year completely free of limitations. This includes restrictions placed upon me by a society that doesnt completely uphold the principles of feminism. Im going to do what i want to do and deal with the consequences of whatever that may make me in the eyes of others. After all..Hoe is for Honey.