Easy Like Sunday Morning

     " Baby, its as good as it gets. Loving you will never be hard. This is pure bliss."

I was in the midst of a rather tumultuous situationship last year, and when I finally released it my grandmother agreed with my decision saying, " It feels to hard. It should be easy!" Her words of wisdom stuck to me like adhesive. One of my Taurus mermaids has been married for five years now, and on one of her anniversary Instagram post she mentioned that her husband makes it so easy. Im reading a book about the late great Nipsey Hussle, and Lauren London said their relationship felt easy, and as if they were meant to be in each others lives. In her book " More Myself" Alicia Keys mentioned there was a certain ease and effortlessness between her and Swizz. In Sherry Argov's book " Why Men Love Bitches" she admonishes that when something is right, it will feel easier and much more effortless. One of my weekly horoscope post on one of my favorite astrologers site, Michele Knight, encouraged that " If love is right it should feel effortless, and if you have to force or chase it, it may be its simply not what you want after all." The operative word in all of these situations is " easy". I feel like so much of what women are taught in love requires unlearning from patriarchal, misogynistic, Western civilization mindsets that equate a woman's worth with her capacity for enduring struggle. Love does not have to be synonymous with trials and tribulations. Differences are a natural part of any relationship, and all relationships endure obstacles, but we must be careful of equating the hard work relationships require with struggle because we think the two are interchangeable. You dont have to be in  the midst of tears, sweat, and stress to believe your relationship is of more substance, and using your grief as a measuring stick for how worthwhile a relationship is. I always say that love is way easier than us women make it out to be, and if a relationship is truly for you, you wont have to do anything short of just existing to know that. Let it be easy. I feel like love being easy is something all mermaids need to be reminded of consistently. As women we tend to sacrifice to much of our wellbeing to maintain relatiionships that have led us to believe that the more we give of ourself ,even in conflict, the more valuable we are. The truth is just the opposite. Very rarely do the things and people that are destined for us and serve our highest good consist of compromising our inner equilibrium. I wish all of my mermaids a romantic relationship full of love, art, sensuality, fun, laughter, lightheartedness, and above all things, true, pure ease. May it be as easy as a Sunday morning.  Ase.