The Magic of Having Fun

   My grandmother passed away in December of 2020, and ive been on a healing and spiritual journey of figuring out my existence without the love of my life. My grandma and i have so many memories, and Ive concluded that I want my life to be as fun as possible because I know thats what she would want me to do. I notice that when you tell black people that they need to heal, they visualize a process similar to the movie " Waiting To Exhale" where theyre smoking cigarettes, venting to friends over wine, and burning all of their spouse's belongings. The truth is that sometimes healing involves the therapist appointments and giving offerings to our ancestors, and sometimes healing is a fun night out on the town, dancing from club to to club while indulging in blunts and margaritas. I want to paint the picture that healing can be an enjoyable experience for women of color. I saw some affirmations on Twitter that said ''  I can grow through pleasure. i can learn my spiritual lessons by having fun. I deserve to be pleasantly rewarded for my work. Can you grow from pleasure? Can you uplevel by becoming so attuned with reward, and surprise yourself with how much you can receive and grow by having fun? Receiving and pleasure are necessary for spiritual growth.'' Your spiritual life is directly proportionate to your ability to receive pleasure and have fun. Having fun is a necessary component in your healing and spiritual process, and one is contingent upon the other. In 2010 i was recovering from a difficult relationship culmination while experiencing massive change in my career. I wondered why i was experiencing so much tension from the people around me,and I felt totally misunderstood. I wanted to have as much fun as possible outside of my career pursuits, and i was determined to become very happy and build a life I was proud of after getting my heart broken. Ironically, the more i prioritzed having as much fun as possible the further I excelled in my healing process and journey i feel like women of color forget that enjoying themselves is a neccessary aspect of healing and ascending spiritually. The summer is coming to an end, and I want to challenge you to prioritze having fun and enjoying yourself as much as possible as we move into the last quarter of the year. Just because you are in the midst of healing and dealing with the viccissituades of your responsibilities doesnt mean that you dont deserve to enjoy yourself. Have fun and fall in love as much as possible. All my love mermaids! xoxo