The Boy is Mine

Okay. So. I see a lot of young women talk about how if they find out the men they are dating are entertaining other young women while dealing with them they wouldn't know what to do or would cut him off, and I am utterly flabbergasted everytime I read something like it. I'm going to be brutally honest here for a moment and challenge this rhetoric. The fact of the matter is until a man has promised exclusivity between you, meaning that the two of you have decided to be committed to one another and only sexually entertain each other, the fact of the matter is you can both suck, fuck, and date however many other people you want to. Shutting out all your other options due to excitement and optimism about the future is unwise. The dating game has so much at stake, and until a man has demonstrated that his plans are to further your relationship to a long term commitment he should not have your heart and soul.  Women have a tendency to dedicate all of their heart and soul to a man without any justification as to why youre allowing him to become such a large part of your life for such menial exchanges. The less you care the happier youll be. The more you realize that being apart of your life is the blessing the more youll attract men who understand this fact as well. Heal your self esteem and you heal your relationship choices. It doesn't matter whether you've slept with him, met his family, traveled together, it just doesn't matter. An air of indifference will do you good because the fact of the matter is  youre giving him room to prove to you why he should be in your life while you consider other options as well. When you commit yourself to seeing only one man at a time you disqualify yourself from finding the man who could possibly be the one had you not negated yourself of other options. This is why it shouldn't matter if hes dating other women are not because youre so consumed with living your best life and finding time to entertain all of the men that want your time that what he does is a non factor because you know its about you and how youre feeling every step of the way. I wish women who think otherwise clarity and peace of mind. We are Goddesses and the eighth wonders of the world. May we never be put in the pathway to acknowledge anything that makes us feel less than such!