Dreamgirls

      Some of my most recent post have been about the divine feminine, and I want to focus on one particular aspect which is self care. Theres a quote from one of my favorite elders and Obatala priestess, Iyanla Vanzant, that expresses how men wont be able to be whole individuals until the women become whole aand show them how to love us. We do this by going out in the world and finding out what makes us come alive and experience happiness. A man wont know how to treat you until you know how to treat yourself. This is why self care is so important. We teach people how to treat us, and it is this attitude about yourself that a man will adopt. Create the lifestyle you want a man to treat you to for yourself. Move to that other country. Start that business. Take yourself out to eat. Buy yourself the flowers and shoes. Order that bag, lingerie, and perfume. Go see that movie. Get your make up, hair, nails, lashes, and eyebrows done. Go to that new club. Self care is a necessity, is feminine. A man wont know how to be the kind of man he needs us to be until we know what kind of woman we are to ourselves. This is where exploring our relationship to self care comes in the picture. Self care strengthens our relationship with the divine feminine which ultimately strengthens our relationships to everything else in our life. Ask yourself are you being the type of woman you need to be for yourself before being catered to by a man? What can you do to priorituze self care more often to bring about more fulfilling relationships? May your life always reflect the love and light inside you.

" When you do not treat yourself the way you want others to treat you, you never change the way things are." - The Secret