Kitty Energy

2011 will forever go down as one of the best years of my life. I achieved success in my career breaking barriers and aspired to new heights, but really it was the delving deeply into the divine feminine and acquiring self esteem outside of my accomplishments that really made the year standout in terms of relationships. I used to think to myself " Ive worked with Debbie Allen, Disney in France, Beyonce, and Tyler Perry. Any man would be a fool to not commit to me!!" While my observation was valid, 2011 brought the realization that if a man wanted a fruituitous relationship with me it wont be for any of these reasons. Im sure Im one of many with a similar thought process, but Im also a living witness as to how with a bit of unlearning the changes made from thinking differently are substantial. Love is much easier than us women make it out to be. If a man wants to be with you you wont have to do anything short of just existing to know that fact. Our accomplishments, degrees, financial status, and successes are all assets in a relationship, but have nothing to do with the ultimate goal of commitment. I experienced a sigh of relief in 2011 when I discovered that it was my connection to the Divine Feminine and all the things and activities outside of my resume that ultimately contribute to who I really am despite my artistic success is what made me attractive. When I began to explore and discover my Goddess and what it means to be a daughter of Oshun outside of the daily everyday grind  my relationships changed for the better. I began gardening, blogging, reading more books, yoga, volunteering at the theatre and different causes in the city, traveling, and just figuring out who I really am outside of my career and my relationships transformed. I began dating better men, one who would later ask me to be in a relationship with him. I had a deep longing within myself to have better experiences in dating, mating, relating and when I began to connect with the divine feminine and committed myself to not being defined by my resume that my experiences changed almost overnight. Who are you when no else is watching?  How do you define yourself outside of your career? Emotional attraction is the key to commitment. My aunt recently reunited with her high school love, and theyve been going steady for awhile now. She has a PHD an is a successful therapist. She told me he told her that if they reconnected and she was a crackhead he wouldve just told his mother they have to get her off crack!!!! That is a testimony to the fact that it has nothing to do with your resume, accomplishments, degrees, or strategies but how you feel about yourself if you didnt have any of those things. Its our relationship to the Divine Feminine and how we define ourselves through that lense that determines our success in relationships. Im still learning and rectifying my relationship to the Divine Feminine, and my relationships continue to improve and I get reassurance that Im on the right path towards procreation and marriage when I connect to that energy. Successful and beautiful celebrities get broken hearts and tumultuous relationship gossip fodder released everyday which is evidence that it wont be our looks or career fulfilment that brings us relationship triumphs. Its our connection to the DF energy that will. I propose a toast to this energy. I propose a toast to discovering who you are and what makes you happy. All hail Queen Divine Feminine!