The Remedy

My wonderful, amazing, and gorgeous aunt has her own radio segment called " Healing Conversations" and this past week they discussed the topic of closure. Upon hearing the conversation, I decided that this is a subject that I direly need to dive in on my blog! Closure is such a sticky subject, and I believe that's because most people have an opinion on closure that is full of illusion. The truth is that the only people you need on your healing journey are you and the good Lord. Needing another person to give you the healing power you need after experiencing heartbreak is not being cognizant of the power you have to heal yourself. I also feel like they need closure because they need someone to tell them something they already know to feel validated. The disrespect was closure. The manipulation was the closure. The moment you ignored that red flag and your intuition only for more red flags to be produced, was the closure. Your boundaries and needs being ridden roughshod over is the closure. The pain, heartbreak, betrayal, and lies are the closure. Sometimes the only closure you need is evidence of how poorly a person treated you. Falling in love with someone and finding out they are not the person your ancestors and the Universe intended for you to build a legacy of love with is always an unbearably painful experience. I'm in no way trying to downplay the means by which people find their healing. I'm simply bringing into awareness that the healing doesn't have to involve the person who hurt you to be any less impactful and powerful. I thought that the Usher song " Burn" was perfect to post for this subject because sometimes no matter how much your heart, body, and mind try to convince you otherwise, we know when it's time to let a relationship go. We delay welcoming the things that are meant to be in our life when we continue entertaining something we know definitely is not. The remedy is to give yourself closure. Take your power back and let it burn. A life of bliss is waiting for you just on the otherside of that decision. Have faith! Ase.